Decisions, decisions, decisions.  Should I accept this job?  Should I marry this person?  Should I listen to that person’s advice?  How do I know what to do? 

If I had a dollar for every time I get asked that question, I’d be a rich man.  Young and old, rich and poor, married and single, spiritual and non-spiritual people – all struggle with the same question: how do I know the “right” thing to do in the situation I’m in?

This question isn’t an easy one; there’s no simple answer.  There’s no formula that I can give you that says “Say this prayer, read this passage and you’ll know what to do.”  Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.  We aren’t talking about math class where everything breaks down into a nice and neat formula.  We’re talking about life and life isn’t always black and white.

So how then are we supposed to figure it out?

Recently something struck me about Jesus and His ministry and how He always knew what to do.  I was reading Mark 1 and in it, I realized something about Jesus that I had never fully grasped before.  He seemed kinda inconsistent, didn’t He?

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Wait a minute…are you saying that I do NOT need to forget in order to forgive?  That I can forgive someone even though I still feel hurt and pain?

Absolutely!  Why?  Because forgiving and forgetting are not the same thing!

Not only do I believe that you don’t need to forget in order to forgive, I believe that in some cases, you CAN NOT forget no matter how hard you try!  But that doesn’t mean you can’t forgive.

How?  Check out Part 3 of Things Jesus Never Said and find out for yourself.  If you struggle with forgiveness and resentment and anger, you MUST listen to this message.

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This is a guest post from Klara Girgis – a student from Vienna, Austria and proud member of St. Mary’s Coptic Orthodox church who has guest posted before.  In today’s post, Klara calls us to lift our eyes and our hearts to the one place we’re all longing to see.  If you too are interested in guest posting on my blog, please visit my Guest Post guidelines for more info.

taste of heaven

I don’t know about you, but if there’s one thing I long for it’s this: the biggest, fattest hug from God and for Him to look us deep in the eye and say “Well done – welcome home, my daughter (or son)!”  I don’t know about you, but I can imagine myself crying oceans on that day.

Every time I think about it, it makes me feel kind of sad that we actually have to live life with all its hardships to get there, but I found myself thinking: Why not live heaven on earth?

I came across recently that says “God is not where heaven is, heaven is where God is.”  

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Is it possible to grow if you’re never challenged?  Think before you answer.  Is it possible to become stronger if your muscles are never challenged?  Is it possible to become smarter if your mind is never challenged?  Is it possible to run farther if your physical conditioning is never challenged?

Is it possible to grow if you’re never challenged?

The undeniable answer is NO.  Whether it’s physical strength or intellectual prowess or long distance running, I will never grow unless I challenge myself and push myself beyond my current capability – aka, “what I can handle.

All agree so far?  (Here comes the part you probably won’t like.)

The same holds true spiritually.  You will not grow spiritually unless you are challenged.  Like your physical muscles, your “faith muscles” – which are the backbone of your spiritual life – will never get stronger without some type of stress or tension that causes them to work harder than they’re used to working.

That isn’t theology or spirituality; that’s just how life works.

And because ultimately God’s goal for us is to grow spiritually (and that’s what you say is YOUR goal as well), then challenges or trials are a REQUIREMENT in the life of a Christian.

(told ya you wouldn’t like that part)

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We hear it all the time, but is it actually true?  Did Jesus ever actually say it?  Isn’t it in the Bible somewhere?  Or did we just make it up?

Week 2 of Things Jesus Never Said and this week we talked about a phrase that hear (and probably say) all the time: GOD WILL NEVER GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE.

In this message, we talk about why God does allow us to endure trials and what the purpose of those trials might be.  More importantly, we talk also talk about what our response to them should be.  Enjoy!

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Love Does

May 13, 2016 — 2 Comments
This is a guest post from Makrina Aziz and Sandra Fahmy – two members of the BecomingFullyAlive team.  You can find out more about them and the rest of the BFA team on their website and you can follow them on FacebookTwitter, or Instagram.  If you too are interested in guest posting on my blog, please visit my Guest Post guidelines for more info.

After His resurrection, Christ asks Peter three times, “Do you love me?” And every time he answers “yes,” Christ says:

“feed my lambs” 

“tend my sheep” 

“feed my sheep” 

Because love is more than words.

Love does.

Often we assume that love is implied. We assume other people are secure in their own worthiness and we assume that they know our love for them. So at times when we admonish another, we are left feeling confused as to why they would lash out and walk away. Usually we deem them as the problem, because our intentions were only ever to love.

Yet the truth is, love is a reminder that we all need daily. Just because I told you I loved you yesterday, does not mean you will believe it for yourself today. With God, our greatest and most perfect of Lovers, we need Him to remind us daily. How much more then for us imperfect humans?

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Today’s post is a recap of the first half of this past Sunday’s message – which unfortunately failed to record.  To get the full message, read the post below and then follow it up by watching the second half here.

desires of heart

Wait a minute…are you serious…Jesus never said that?  Are you sure?  You’re saying God doesn’t want me to be happy?  He doesn’t want me to be fulfilled?  Why would He give me a desire and then refuse to fulfill it???

You may not realize it, but we live in a world that worships happiness.  Yep, you heard me right.  We worship happiness and we have given ourselves permission to pursue it at all costs.

Want a new car but got no money?  No problem.  Finance it!  Zero down and zero interest for 18 months and you can drive home in style.  You deserve to be happy!

Things aren’t working out with your wife?  No problem.  Get a new one!  You can’t live the rest of your life when you’re unhappy!  How can that be God’s will for you?

Not sure you want to wait till marriage to have sex with your boyfriend?  That’s ok.  I mean, God wouldn’t give you that desire if He didn’t want you to fulfill it, right?  Obviously God wants you to be happy.

That is what I call the “theology of happiness” and unfortunately that’s the state of the world today – including many Christians.  We prioritize our happiness above all else and we justify it by saying “God wouldn’t give me this desire unless He wanted me to fulfill it, right?” or “I asked God to take away this desire if it isn’t from Him and He didn’t.  Therefore it must be from God.”

Oh really?  Well, let me tell you about one of my desires – one that has been with me since my childhood…my desire for DESSERT!

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